It is Mother’s Day weekend in the UK this week. Hubby will likely send his mother a nice card and perhaps some flowers too. For me, however, I have done something quite different instead. I have ordered something more practical for Mum.
I come from a culture where family values are held close to the heart. We are taught from an early age to respect and care for our elders, even into their old age. I remember that my grandparents came to live with us for part of the time when they were no longer able to live in their own house. Then, as they became more infirm and because we did not have ground floor bedrooms, they moved out of our home to live with an uncle and aunt instead. It never crossed any of our minds to place our grandparents in old folks homes because that would have been to renege on our obligation to care for our elders and we would have felt great familial shame over doing just such a thing.
I wrote the paragraph above as a kind of explanation about the parcels I sent Mum for Mother’s Day, for their contents are more practical than sentimental. I know that it is the done thing to send cards and give mementos to our parents on Mother’s Day and Father’s Day. However, within the tradition in which I was brought up, there was never any emphasis on such occasions. Rather, my parents led by example and encouraged us to express care for our elders and relations through practical deeds.
So what have I bought Mum this Mother’s Day? Well, since my mother is suffering from the latter states of Alzheimer’s Disease and is incontinent to boot, I have bought her a whole load of incontinence pants which the NHS will not provide. We were told that we could apply for adult nappies for my mother’s needs. However, what dignity is there in an adult wearing nappies? At least the pull-ups I have bought her act just like normal panties and she can use them comfortably. Having spent a hefty £500 on the pants, which should last her some little while, my Mother’s Day gift to Mum is therefore a means to afford her some residual dignity in the face of what is – if she could only comprehend – the utmost infringement of her personal pride.
Thus, as you can see, Mother’s Day gifts can be both practical and thoughtful. I suppose I was being somewhat sentimental in wanting my mother to retain some semblance of dignity despite the horrors of incontinence. Hubby, on the other hand, has had the pleasure of being able to send his mother something pretty and frivolous, just for her pure enjoyment.
At Blenheim Lodge, we are open this weekend to visitors coming to stay with us simply for the joy of being able to get out, relax and enjoy this beautiful Lakeland countryside. We have late availability special offers, so if you are still looking for a place to escape for a day or more, do contact us for accommodation. Or perhaps you could treat your mother or mother-in-law with a family or romantic breakaway this weekend?
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